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I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

  • 1.  I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

    Posted 6 days ago

    I'm usually not the one to start a witch fest, but I'm honestly at the end of my rope with people expecting someone else to solve every cat problem in this area.

    A little context first.

    We own a cat sanctuary. We very clearly state that we are a sanctuary, NOT a rescue.

    We are in an area where, frankly, very little is being done for cats.

    Animal Control here is overwhelmed and, from what we've experienced, doesn't have the capacity or resources to do much about the situation.

    There is one rescue that you're lucky if they call you back, and they never seem to be present at local events.

    There is also a very small pet food bank that offers up to $75 toward veterinary bills. They held an event several months ago, and since then, the only things I've seen are posts about their TNR van-which is great, except there has been absolutely no information about how anyone can actually access TNR through it-and posts trying to sell leftover shirts from that event. Those posts aren't even recent. They're several weeks old.

    We do have some feral colony feeders, and I am genuinely grateful for them, even though I don't personally know who they are. I'm just told they exist.

    That's the reality here.

    Hell, it took me three days-and a kitten who ultimately died-to find someone who could teach me how to tube-feed her. The closest emergency vet is an hour away. As far as I know, TNR simply does not exist here on the scale that is actually needed.

    So excuse me if I sound frustrated, but I don't want another person's problems dumped on me.

    I am not the person to call because a cat followed you into your house and now you want someone else to take responsibility for it (I just got off the phone with this person).

    We cannot take every cat that someone decides they don't want to deal with.

    We don't need more than 20 cats in our two-bedroom home. And we don't have easy, healthy cats. Our cats have special needs. That's who we built this sanctuary for.

    We built it for the cats who have nowhere else to go-the chronically ill, behaviorally challenged, seniors, and cats who simply don't fit into the traditional rescue/adoption model.

    That doesn't mean I don't care about the healthy cats people call about every single day.

    I do.

    I want them to have somewhere safe to go, too. I hate saying no. But until someone steps up to help build the infrastructure this community desperately needs-and until we're able to get an actual building-we simply cannot keep absorbing cats.

    And that's the part that seems to be getting lost.

    We're trying. We're fundraising. We're trying to get our name out there. We're trying to educate people. We're trying to build something that can eventually help more cats.

    But we're only one year old, and nobody seems to know who we are until they need somewhere to place a cat.

    We don't get donations.

    We're an Illinois nonprofit corporation, but we're not a 501(c)(3), which severely limits what we're able to do in terms of grants and other funding opportunities. We simply don't have the money for a nonprofit status right now.

    We're also a one-income household. Every available dollar and virtually every bit of our time goes toward the cats. We love them. They're our family. We would do anything we reasonably can for them.

    But we're tapped out.

    So no, we cannot be the answer every time someone finds a cat.

    And honestly, I'm tired of feeling guilty for saying that.

    I don't know exactly what I'm expecting anyone to say here. Maybe I just needed to say it somewhere where people actually understand what it's like to be the person everyone thinks should be able to magically fix the problem.

    So if you made it this far, thank you for listening.


    #CaseManagement*

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    Bre Hoffman (they/m)
    Special Little Whiskers Sanctuary Decatur IL
    SpecialLittleWhiskersKittenRescue.com
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  • 2.  RE: I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

    Posted 5 days ago

    You aren't alone. It's like that here too. Maybe with a few more resources and we've recently built a cat coalition so that the colony care givers, rescues, and cat loving animal control are coming together to help. 
    I still have to say no, every single day. And get yelled at regularly because I won't/can't take in everyone's cats.
    We are focusing as much effort, and funding, on TNR as possible, so that at least we can maybe start controlling the cat population. But for every 10 cats we fix, another unfixed litter of kittens is given away on social media. 



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    Rebecca McCathern
    Founder & Managing Director
    Helena's Community Cats of SOWEGA
    GA
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  • 3.  RE: I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

    Posted 5 days ago

    Sometimes I feel like it's a never ending battle. I wish people had a better understanding of it. I've been trying to make that happen here. I just feel like I hit a brick wall sometimes.



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    Bre Hoffman (they/m)
    Special Little Whiskers Sanctuary Decatur IL
    SpecialLittleWhiskersKittenRescue.com
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  • 4.  RE: I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

    Posted 5 days ago

    Yes, you are not alone. I say no daily too and it breaks my heart but if I overwhelm myself, I simply can't provide the quality of care the animals already in my care deserve. I said no to an owner surrender with the reason of "no time, I've had the cat for 8 years and I think she's bored." I offered enrichment suggestions, suggested kindly but firmly that this isn't a good reason to surrender when we have emergencies and other urgent issues and that the stress of surrendering her is a big consideration and I was told "you don't need to make me feel guilty." She should feel guilty. Her cat is in a home, being cared for, with no behavior or health issues. If I say yes to her, I would have to say no to a kitten needing a tail amputation, etc. 

    People are the worst part of rescue, but every now and again you get a person who will go above and beyond and it makes it all worth it. 



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    Kallie Laity
    Owner
    Kitty Kisses Rescue of Reno
    NV
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  • 5.  RE: I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

    Posted 5 days ago

    I am very thankful for the one lady whom we're fostering for at the moment. Her life is beyond crazy and yet she's managed to donate $20 and a bag of food for her cats. She's always responsive too. On the other hand we had someone we fostered for not even say thank you. It's crazy out there.



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    Bre Hoffman (they/m)
    Special Little Whiskers Sanctuary Decatur IL
    SpecialLittleWhiskersKittenRescue.com
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  • 6.  RE: I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

    Posted 5 days ago

    Just here to share a little compassion and support! It's not just the "little" rescues who struggle with these problems. I work for a medium-sized, private, non-profit with multiple municipal contracts and we are constantly berated (often by those "little" rescues) for "not doing anything to help cats" despite "huge financial support"...we take in thousands of cats/kittens, thousands of adoptions, over a thousand TNR surgeries, S/N vouchers for community programs, disaster responses, hoarding cases, etc. every year...but we're never doing it like they think we should. 

    There is a niche for all of us. We don't have to be everything to everybody and we don't have to solve all the problems. Keep doing the work, setting boundaries to make the work sustainable, and make sure you're following current, widely accepted best practices and guidelines for shelters, rescues, and community cat management.

    Hang in there!

    Rachel



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    Rachel Powell DVM
    ASV Board of Directors
    Director of Surgery
    Greenhill Humane Society
    Eugene, OR
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  • 7.  RE: I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

    Posted 5 days ago

    Thank you for reminding me that everyone is struggling out there. Somehow I often forget this.



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    Bre Hoffman (they/m)
    Special Little Whiskers Sanctuary Decatur IL
    SpecialLittleWhiskersKittenRescue.com
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  • 8.  RE: I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

    Posted 5 days ago

    The community really needs to step up and do some of the work themselves.  We have a horrible stray/homeless cat problem here in PCB where there are condos and businesses galore and guess what everyone one of them don't want around - Cats! I have several colonies I feed on the way home from work that it takes over an hour for me to get home due to all the stops and traffic.  When I arrived at the condo last night to feed, I was confronted by a board member to not come on their property to feed the cats.  When I asked what they were going to do about the cats their answer is not to feed them and they will go away.  I am so frustrated with people that are not informed on cats but wants them gone.  I am trying to help fix a problem I didn't create and the cats didn't create-they are doing what instinct tells them too-reproduce.  There is also another condo next to them that is covered in cats so I explained to them that not only will the cats not go away, but they are going to continue reproducing and if they are successful in removing the cats - not from not feeding them but trapping and removing them - the cats next door are lying in wait to come take there place! They didn't even know or really even believe me that will happen.  I have fixed 4 cats at this location - unfortunately only one female-at my expense and feed them at my expense.  I was alerted to the cats from their out of town guests that recognize they need to be fixed.  I started feeding them to create a routine with them to TNR and now they will have guests feeding them and will continue reproducing.  I am the only trapper on the beach and if they run me off they are on their own! How many people are going to come down to trap 10+ cats when animal control will only take 2 a day if they drop them off an hour from the condo? Animal Control here will not trap the cats for you-you have to do it and they will pick up 1 a day or you can drop off 2 a day and they are euthanized because they are feral.  Killing the cats is not the solution - TNR is.  My time is too valuable to spend it on a property where the people (the board) do not want the cats as there are cats all over Bay County - like my rescue TNR's over 900 cats in Bay County and NW Florida a year at $60 each if there are no other health issues and it's not even a dent in the population of homeless cats! My rescue will adopt out the friendly ones and have adoption events every Saturday at Petsmart and I work a full time paralegal job and have a husband/home to maintain.  My rescue is the only one of about 7 in this town that TNRs and adopts cats- usually about 300 cats a year. We only take cats from the streets to find them homes.  Some rescues don't even fix the cats before they are adopted which in my opinion is not a rescue and contributing to the problem. I have about 20 volunteers in my rescue, some only feed colonies, some only volunteer at Petsmart, and some TNR. I am grateful for every one of them and wish there were more like minded people in this world. Sometimes an hour of your day can make all the difference in the life of a street cat. 



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    Nicole Buckley
    President
    Nine Lives Kitty Rescue, Inc.
    FL
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  • 9.  RE: I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

    Posted 5 days ago

    Thank you for spending that hour a day!



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    Bre Hoffman (they/m)
    Special Little Whiskers Sanctuary Decatur IL
    SpecialLittleWhiskersKittenRescue.com
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  • 10.  RE: I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

    This message was posted by a user wishing to remain anonymous
    Posted 5 days ago
    This message was posted by a user wishing to remain anonymous

    First I am grateful that you had this forum to vent your frustrations.  Every life matters and the work you are doing is important no matter the scale.  People are the solution but are also the biggest part of the problem which is what makes this work so difficult.  I've never had an animal tell me they didn't like the foster or present me with a list of demands for the perfect foster or adopter.  Animals are just grateful for the support and give us so much back in return.

    I think I realized that rescues are too dependent on humans that are a mixed bag of helpful and inflated egos that get in the way of solutions.  We are trying something new that we call Community Based Shelter Support.  We are there to provide resources directly to the municipal shelter when funding or people get in the way of a solution that will improve the outcome for an animal.  We opened a pet food pantry at the Shelter and distribute pet food especially to those that feel they need to surrender beloved pets because they can't afford to feed them.  Our only motivation is to improve the quality of life and care for the animals in our community.

    I marked this anonymous because my heart doesn't need snarky comments.  You were brave to vent in this forum and I wanted you to know that I see you, feel your frustration, and am encouraging you to continue the good work you are doing.




  • 11.  RE: I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

    Posted 5 days ago

    Thank you. I hear/feel you with the snarky comments but I hope you'll see that you mostly won't receive them here. In regards to my post, we are trying to serve as an educational resource. As you said it's hard to get people to get over themselves. I'm just not use to dealing with it on the front line. I guess my skin will grow thick/hard enough to cope eventually. In the mean time I'll keep keeping on. Thanks!



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    Bre Hoffman (they/m)
    Special Little Whiskers Sanctuary Decatur IL
    SpecialLittleWhiskersKittenRescue.com
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  • 12.  RE: I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

    Posted 5 days ago

    While 10 have responded, I believe your frustration & feelings are felt by dozens & dozens 🙁.

    My first job in Animal Care was in 1970 so I've obviously been around awhile . I've been a paid employee as a vet tech, shelter employee, & an ACO. Mostly I've worked as a volunteer for rescues/shelters & EARS (emergency responder).   I only bring this up as it has been interesting to see how far we've gotten over the decades to the past several yrs. where we seem to be sliding backwards.  I want to believe that's not true but we know more because of social media/internet - but I'm not sure.

    IMO, cats/kittens, both feral & non-feral is a bigger problem then dogs tho' it doesn't mean we couldn't use improvement there as well. However, it is a fact that cats reproduce more 😹. There are still many areas/counties in the South where there is no animal control & no shelters. There are also ones that just warehouse animals in sheds etc.  We need funds & resources to TNR everywhere. It is the only thing IMO that will reduce the # of cats , especially in the South. We have these large orgs. such as ASPCA, Best Friends, HSUS (forgot their new name) etc that have millions upon millions of $$.  Imagine if they all got together & made spay/neuter their # 1 priority & had a campaign across the USA promoting this.  Where possible, obtain private & public funding as well. How else will we get this under control?? We can have the cat haters contribute $$ to help. The individual silos do a lot but it's a National Issue.  Countries such as Germany & the Netherlands are almost to zero. In Germany,  all outdoor cats have to be spayed by law. The govt. provides funds for low income folks to get this done. 

    Finally, I would say progress has been made as decades ago, people rarely adopted from shelters; it is now common place for dogs & cats. There are rescues now. Having said that, we still have to many puppy mills & backyard breeders. When shelters & rescues aren't at or over capacity - that's when we will know the issue of overpopulation is beginning to be solved.



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    Laurie Methven
    Volunteer
    Twin Counties Humane Society, Virginia
    Red Rover, Easten Region
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  • 13.  RE: I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

    Posted 4 days ago

    Great post Laurie!

    Maybe this entire conversation could be forwarded to the huge groups you mentioned.  Invite them into uncharted territory which is a great promo move for them as well as benefiting those areas that are most in need.



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    Carolyn Kostera
    NA
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  • 14.  RE: I need to vent to people who understand. Thank you for listening and suggesting things!

    Posted 3 days ago

    I actually decided to post something like this on my FB page yesterday. 3 calls within 30 minutes asking me things like "Can you take my cat bc it doesn't like my baby?" I even changed our auto responder a bit so people had a better understanding and I don't have to answer them all. I'm in the process of creating a library for on our site too.



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    Bre Hoffman (they/m)
    Special Little Whiskers Sanctuary Decatur IL
    SpecialLittleWhiskersKittenRescue.com
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