Wow that is so tough, and I'm sorry you are going through that.
First I would say that protecting your mental health has to always be a priority, and so if stepping away protects you, then it is the right decision. I always think of the airplane theory "put your own oxygen mask on before helping others" and in order for you to be most effective helping people and animals in your community, you have to be your best self.
In terms of what to do about leadership you feel is not adopting progressive policies, etc., could you write a letter signed by you and other volunteers asking for feedback on why they do not want to make these changes? I think if you can approach it from a place of truly trying to find common ground and understanding, that is always the best way to go.
I would:
- avoid accusations and stay in the lane of questions
- talk about how you believe you all want the same thing/ have the same goal which is quality of life for pets and people
- offer to connect them to resources like the leaders here at Maddie's Fund to provide guidance and context
I believe people generally are more receptive to hearing feedback when they feel listened to, so frame it in a way that makes it clear you want to understand where they are coming from.
Hope that helps!
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Alexis Pugh
Director, Memphis Animal Services
www.memphisanimalservices.comOrganizational Management
& Pet Support Services Specialist
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Original Message:
Sent: 10-20-2021 02:15 PM
From: Anonymous Member
Subject: Leaving a toxic organization
This message was posted by a user wishing to remain anonymous
I've received valuable help and wisdom in other discussions, so I'm hoping to get some here as well.
For reasons too varied and drama-ridden to go into, I'm leaving my volunteer position at a small rural humane society. I am part of a mass exodus of key volunteers who aren't able to work with the current board of directors, which has mostly been the same people for 10 years, is highly resistant to changes that would improve the lives of the animals and the people who care for them (both staff and volunteer), and engages in an astonishing amount of back-stabbing and petty gossip. The final straw for me was a recent board decision to re-hire someone who was previously fired for cause (I was on the board at the time of the firing, so I can confirm that it was for a legitimate cause).
I say all that to say that I am certain I am doing the right thing (for my conscience and my mental health) in leaving -- I have tried to work with this group and I can't bash my head against a wall anymore. I believe that the shelter is failing under this terrible leadership, but they won't allow anyone with new energy and fresh ideas (and who isn't burnt out) to participate in any meaningful way.
I can't be the only person who has walked away from a toxic shelter situation, but it is breaking my heart to do so. Has anyone else done this? How have you coped with the guilt and the feeling of failing these animals who have become my friends?
Thank you.
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