@Ron Wenaas
I agree completely with your statement: "I firmly believe that the problem is not the dog. It's people's expectations of what a good dog behaves like, imposed on one that may have never lived like a pet. So clear, quick guidance about taking your time, allowing the dog to settle in and letting him or her adapt at their own pace is the key."
I recently had a someone tell me: "a dog who does not come back, is not a dog worth having." I am still in shock at this statement. The above statement I quoted from your reply was explained using the 333 rule with training and bonding with a new adult dog going into a new home. This conversation took place before your reply.
My thoughts about this: Do you really expect a dog from a rescue/shelter to know that the adopters home is there home now on the first day?
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Kim Jackson
AKC CGC Evaluator
President/Founder For The Puppies Foundation Inc.
Corinth, MS
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Original Message:
Sent: 06-07-2025 07:33 AM
From: Ron Wenaas
Subject: Homeward Hound: Bringing home your new dog- June 2025 in Maddie's Monthly Foster Connection
Thanks for the informative discussion Chancel! I'm the Director of Education for The Retrievers volunteer lost dog search team. We search for far too many dogs that have arrived "home" to a new environment and are then expected to immediately feel safe and perfectly settled. We've had families arrive home from the shelter, open the car door and expect a dog that came from a hoarding house, a high-volume breeding farm or off the streets to calmly walk in the door and cuddle up by the fireplace.
Expertise like yours is crucial and we frequently work with rescue groups or shelters that don't have the time or resources to properly help people adapt to the challenges they face in bringing high-risk dogs into their lives. I firmly believe that the problem is not the dog. It's people's expectations of what a good dog behaves like, imposed on one that may have never lived like a pet. So clear, quick guidance about taking your time, allowing the dog to settle in and letting him or her adapt at their own pace is the key.
I would like to address your comments about the "3-3-3 Rule." Whenever we talk to groups or individuals, we stress this as guidance, not as a set of "Rules" to impose on the dog. It's a good way to get people thinking about slowing their approach to their dog's introduction to it's new home. To us, "3-3-3" is not a schedule -- it's a concept guiding people to let the dog adapt at it's own pace, under safe precautions, such as those you've presented.
Thanks again for everything you do to help your foster, adopters and others in the world of dogs keep their dogs safe!
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Ron Wenaas
Volunteer
Retrieve a Golden of the Midwest
MN
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