Hey, I run a similar program at Animal-Angels Foundation in Central Alabama. We call our equivalent The Bridge, with crisis foster as a sub-program. We have hit this exact wall a few times in our first year and the answer has gotten clearer the more we run it.
The contract is the answer. You already have it. The families had two months plus two extensions. Four months is the maximum the program can absorb because every month past four is a month another family with a real 60-day crisis cannot get help. The animals in your program are not getting served by indefinite extensions either. Four months in temporary foster is not temporary anymore. It is housing instability dressed up as foster placement, and the animal is paying for it in attachment turnover and uncertainty.
What I would do differently from a pure surrender framing is offer them a graceful pathway out. Tell the two upset families you understand the crisis has not resolved, and that you have a path that protects the animal. The pet transitions out of Shaina's Safe Haven into your rehoming pipeline, you find them a permanent placement, and the family knows the animal landed with people who can care for them long-term. That is functionally a surrender, but it reads as continuity for a family in real crisis. You are not abandoning them. You are doing the part they cannot do right now.
On the social media backlash, two things help. Put the maximum stay on the public-facing program description if it is not already there: "Shaina's Safe Haven provides temporary foster care for up to four months while families resolve a housing or medical crisis." That preempts the "but they did not tell me there was a limit" framing. And have a response template ready if anyone does go public: "Shaina's Safe Haven is a time-bound crisis program. We worked with this family for four months and offered the maximum extensions our contract allows. We honor our commitment to every animal in the program by ensuring no pet stays in limbo indefinitely." Then do not engage individual drama. Engage the policy question with the policy answer.
You are doing this right. Holding the line is the harder thing. It is also the thing that lets the program keep serving the next family who actually has a four-month crisis.
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Original Message:
Sent: 05-23-2026 07:19 PM
From: Cheryl Koenig
Subject: How do you deal with ending a temporary foster situation?
Hi! We run a program called Shaina's Safe Haven, named after a volunteer who sadly passed away. The purpose of this program is to offer temporary foster care for people who are in a situation that does not allow them to care for their pets temporarily, such as a hospitalization, eviction, house fire, etc. We ask the people how long they think they will need to use this service and most say a month or so and we always arrange the agreement for 2 months. Rarely are they able to take their pet back at the 2 month deadline. I allow 2 extensions of a month each. Currently, we have 11 cats and 2 dogs in this situation and one dog and 9 cats are now at the 4 month mark with the families being granted 2 extensions. 4 months is too long for these pets to be in limbo and, obviously, takes space from us helping others. I talked to all the families a few weeks ago and told them that they had until June 1 to get their pets, or per our contract, they would be considered surrendered and we would find them new homes. They had multiple warnings over the last month that June 2 was the absolute final deadline (if they were able to provide me proof that they would be in a new location on X date that was just past June 1 I would extend to that deadline). Today when I discussed it with 2 of the families, they both became upset and said they needed more time. So far, I am not agreeing as it is not fair to their pets. However, I do feel bad for the people and I dread the possible back lash on social media. How do others handle this?
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Cheryl Koenig
Volunteer Executive Director
Sullivan County Humane Society
NH
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